I am on day 4 of the ultimate “do something kind and good for myself” :). I am on vacation this week….WOOT WOOT!!!! Gotta looooooove that! But, it isn’t just time off of work, time away from the daily grind and the hustle and bustle. What makes the last few days the ultimate “Be Good To Myself” experience is that I am sitting in a cabin, in the remote wilderness of the Keweenaw Penninsula in Upper Michigan, with my hubby, and both of my pups…it doesn’t get any better than this 🙂 We’ve done some hiking along Lake Superior, stopped at a few waterfalls, visited The Jampot, and have spent time snuggled up on the couch reading during the afternoon rain. (There may have also been some good meals and a couple naps in there too.) Pure heaven.
We have been coming to the Keweenaw Penninsula for just over a decade now. How we originally started coming up here, we can’t quite remember. We think it is because a friend of my husband’s recommended Copper Harbor….”you should go check it out”….so we did, and have kept coming back ever since. We have explored the entire Keweenaw Penninsula and have stayed in a lot of different places over the years. We have finally found the one place that is perfect for us, until we have our own permanent residence established up here…YAY!!
So…even though the official 4 week Kindness Challenge has come to an end, I am going to continue to challenge myself to be kind and good to myself daily, for another 4 weeks. Why? (Well, really, why not?) This is something I need to continue to work on, so since I’m already going strong from the last 4 weeks, I might as well continue to forge ahead! (How long do they say it takes before something becomes habit? Fingers crossed.)
The question is, why is it hard for me to be kind and good to myself? I certainly know that I am not alone in this…so why is it hard for us?As caregivers, most of us struggle with this. We are trained that patients and their families always come first, as they should. But eventually, for many of us, we start to make a lot of personal sacrifices, and by the time we think to do something kind or good for ourselves, there is nothing left to give. No energy left to focus on ourselves. We always come last, and we pay a price for this.
As caregivers, we naturally want to take care of everyone and help them with everything. Female caregivers, which make up nearly 80% of the healthcare workforce, not only have their professional role, but also wear many hats in their roles as wives and mothers. And, for some reason, I think from the pressure of our culture and society, we have this mindset that we should be able to do it all…without any help from anyone or anything. Say, what?!?!?! This is craziness!!!
We put so much pressure on ourselves to do it all, be it all, and have it all….at the expense of our own health and happiness. We need to be kind and good to ourselves. We need to know and accept that we can’t do it all and it is ok to ask for help. We need to make ourselves a priority despite everything we have on our plate. We need to make time every day to do something that is kind and good for ourselves, whether it be for mind, body, or spirit…big or small.
If we accept that we can’t do it all and if we start asking for help from others, if we start caring for ourselves like we care for our patients and their families, we will have the energy to do something kind and good for ourselves each day. We will no longer be the last thing on the list, and our health and happiness will improve 🙂 Just sayin’ 🙂
So, be good to yourself,